Happy Mother’s Day

Howdy Y’all,

Happy Mother’s Day. I know that this date varies dependent on country because hell knows it would be too sensible to make it all on the same day. Before I get comments reminding me of my British roots and it would be treason to abandon them, I beg upon your mercy to remember that my daughter is American born and to date raised, so to  ensure she feels well adjusted we celebrate the US date of mother’s day, although  I am always happy to celebrate more than one.

Today is my fifth mother’s day and as I reflect on that fact I thought I would share some of my thoughts and feelings on motherhood. These are purely off the cuff and a stream of consciousness.

  1. The days are long but the years are short, never a truer statement said. Some days I feel like I am pulling a jumbo jet up K2 in a pair of high heels, but then I sit down and think how is this my fifth mothers day!
  2. You will develop an addictive personality usually to coffee or wine and if you are truly successful both.
  3. If you have a plan, trash it. You can be the most organized person on the planet but children are unpredictable beasts, they have a mind and feelings of their own. There are times and days where all the planning on the planet will not stop a melt down. Trust me I have been their. I still think about those poor peoples ear drums on that flight ….
  4. Love, unconditional love it is mesmerizing, life altering and breathtaking all at once and it grows deeper and stronger as time progresses.
  5. You learn more about yourself, I lie not when I say mothering is a challenge it will take you to the brink and beyond, whether it is sleep deprivation, growing pains or they are being a stinker with prerogative, you will learn more about your patience level, selfishness and  tolerance than any school room will teach you.
  6. You will see yourself. There is nothing more frightening than when you see yourself staring back at you. The wonder of genetics.
  7. They are always watching, children are like a shadows, whatever you say, do, they are ready to recreate at the most inappropriate moments.
  8. Judgement, I was one of those stuck-up young women who actually thought things like “when I am a mother, I won’t.” I mean what a stupid person I was. Any mother knows that this mantra never applies because being a mum is beyond challenging and the last thing anyone needs is judgement.
  9. Consistency, I remember my mum telling me this one and she was right. Consistency is the biggest challenge as a mama, there are days when you are on your A game and having a consistent approach and parenting is easy and then their are the days when that fourth espresso is not hitting the mark and the appeal of letting your child have candy for breakfast or an extra hour of TV is what you need.
  10. Parental club, this club is non discriminatory it is that solidarity we all feel. It is the unspoken nod of the head or sympathetic head turn which says. WE KNOW, WE HAVE BEEN YOU AND THANK GOD IT IS NOT ME TODAY.

I am beyond lucky to be a mother and I thank God for giving me the blessing of my happy daughter. She is my greatest legacy and I appreciate every moment we get to experience and learn life together. To all mother’s in whatever form that is, wherever in the world you are. Happy Mother’s Day. To those of you who may find this day difficult you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Have a wonderful week friends.

Ta ta for now,

Kx

Summer Update- Where have you been?

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Howdy Y’all,

It feels a lifetime ago that I wrote to y’all and in many ways it is, not simply in time but also in what has been going on in Casa Lifestyle. So where to start.  I am now typing this in my new home, moving is not a phenomenon to me, but this is different because we have bought a home, our first American home. I don’t remember how much I told you about our purchase and I think the level of information is different depending on what social media channels you follow me on! (If the answer is not on all forms, I ask you why the hell not?!) So we bought a house back in March/April and spent two or so months remodeling. A project which I managed, back in my working days this would have been a piece of cake but now I found daunted me a little (will share more in a future post.) I am happy to say that we finished the projects on time, I wont say on budget (because if you know me speculation = accumulation is my moto -lol) In all seriousness the budget increased because the scope increased and honestly we were so fortunate not to be living in the home at the time so it made sense to get works done! Now I love interiors and design but I will say this was a large project and by the end making decisions got frustrating. I am thrilled with the end result and hope to share the transformation with y’all in the coming months. We are settled, there are no boxes and I certainly think it looks as if we have been living here longer than we have. I still have finishing touches to add, which honestly I don’t want to rush, I want to take a breather from all things house for a while. I want to live and love it before I decide what sort of art or chotskies to add for dust collection. If you have time to flick through the slideshow above I share a few sneakpeaks into the transformation.

The rest of the summer has been busy and hot, Little L is growing up at a rate of knots. I’m officially stopping her, she has remained in school for three days a week which has been a lifesaver because we are still making friends and it’s hot here, school has been a blessing. She has taken to the new house super well. She has had a lot of change for a three year old and it blows my mind how resilient kids are. I do think it helped that she had been able to visit the house during works and had a say in her bedroom etc. I think the arrival of Gertie has helped, who has been a total trooper, she is now five months and although we have had one or two more difficult days (she loves to eat underpants.) I can honestly say good outweighs bad and she has adjusted to the new home and garden like the golden gal she is. Gertie will have her own post coming very soon.

My mother came for a visit soon after we moved in, we loved having her. I will try not to hammer on in my champagne life about how challenging it can be with family so far away but it really makes the visits special. Little L and Gertie especially enjoyed Granny time. Just wish she could have stayed longer.

Last week I was down with a ear infection it was a nasty one, I had not had one this bad since my honeymoon. (Yes what a love dampener.) I had a face like a Bo Selecta character and if you have no idea of what I speak, google it. I still cant hear out of my left ear and am hoping it will come back. I mentioned earlier that it is hot here in Texas and I am using that to my advantage, planning and organizing content for TLL over the coming months. I really appreciate you taking the time to read, watch and participate in my things. I am a one woman band and like many of you time is a precious commododity. I love and need The Lifestyle Lady and thoughts for content and replying to comments is never far from my mind. Now life is calming a little I hope I will be able to dedicate some more efforts to her. So please don’t be a stranger are there things you would like to see, get in touch! Above I have a slideshow of some summer pics, please enjoy and I will be back soon!

 

Ta Ta for now.

Kx

 

 

High Five Monday – Great Fall Reads

Howdy Y’all,

I’m back! Sorry for the delay in blogging, it has been a busy couple of weeks here in Casa Lifestyle but I’m back roaring to go into my favorite quarter of the year. I love to read – do you? It is one of the pastimes which has really taken a back seat since Little L arrived, if I can get through a magazine or periodical I am proud of myself these days. I have decided that I must do better. So I thought I would share with you my high-five books that if you have not had a chance to read might inspire you to pick up and start and I am sharing because I have enjoyed them. I also want to add another book which I would like to read this month (October) and if you wanted to join me then that would be super duper. I want to preface that the books I am recommending and the book I choose are not high brow works of literature. These days I need a book to entertain and engage me from the get go otherwise it joins the donation pile. So here are the five books I have enjoyed:-

  1. Girl on the Train – Paula Hawkins. This novel is the Gone Girl of 2015. I’m quite sure most of you have read it. I believe it is being made into a movie. The story tells us about Rachel and the view she gets from her window on a commuter train. One day she catches something for a brief second and you discover she is far more than the Girl on the train. Good and compelling read.
  2. Great read. I Let You Go – Clare Mackintosh.  In one second life as you know it can change entirely. The story follows Jenna trying to rebuild her life by moving away and learning to live with haunting memories. As she begins to rebuild her life, the past catches her up and has terrible results. Great read, good twist, ideal for a winter evening.
  3. imageThe Sea Sisters – Lucy Clarke. I don’t have the pleasure of a sister and don’t share the relationship described in this novel. The story focuses on two sisters and learning of Mia’s devastating death Katie goes on a journey following her journal to discover what happened to her sister and much more. Compelling read.
  4. imageDaughter – Jane Shemilt. A story about a GP and her family, the book deals with how their lives change when her 16-year-old daughter goes missing. It questions how well we really know our own lives and the people we share our life with. Easy and compelling read. Interesting ending. Great debut novel. Good page turner.
  5. imageThe Light Between Ocean ML Steadman. A beautiful novel which tells the story of a lighthouse keeper and his wife whose lives change when a dead man and crying baby crash into their rocks. The decisions they make are heartbreaking and what happens next will break yours. I enjoyed this greatly the imagery and story telling is lovely.

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So next is the first suggestion for TLL book club. Who wants to join me? Anyone? Don’t be shy! I wanted to choose something slightly out of my comfort choice and I have chosen Kind Worth Killing by Peter Swanson. I know little about the book except it has received fantastic reviews. So here goes. If you fancy joining me please do.

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What books have you loved or enjoyed? Any writers you love? Please share with me.

Enjoy your week.

Ta Ta for now

TLL x