I.Y.D.H.A.N.T.S.D.S

This post in an announcement, proclamation and a plea. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t speak. Now I know it’s Monday, we are all a little down in the dumps about that, and for us folks in the Northern Hemisphere its summer and hot, which can also alter the mood. However, I wanted to ask people to take a breath and be kinder and nicer to everyone. Now hopefully you’re getting to know me a little better and realize I am not the type of gal to sugar coat everything and who only sees fluffy bunnies. I am usually quite the opposite – often too direct – but I don’t go out of my way to pass judgement or be unkind.

The incident that has caused this public announcement was passive aggressive comments made by a mum to her daughter, loud enough so the mothers of the said children she was speaking of could hear. This is wrong on so many levels. Firstly, from me to all mums out there let’s cut each other some slack: whether your child is an infant, toddler or grownup, have times really changed so much that you want to judge and attack each other? Surely what we should be doing is supporting each other and thinking this is one tough job, let’s care for one another. After all it is Proverbs which says “It takes a to village to raise a child.” These words are so true. Secondly, to make comments in such a passive aggressive manner is so naff. I would have more respect for a person who would come forward and share their complaint or suggestions. After all, we are all entitled to opinions and views. I celebrate that I am fortunate enough to live in a democratic nation where freedom of speech is encouraged. Finally Mummy L raised me with the mantra “If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t speak.” Today these words rang true.

Whilst I know that I am speaking to mummies who I often find are each other’s toughest critics, these words ring true in lots of instances. So I ask of you what I am asking of myself, I Y D H A N T S D S!

Ta Ta for now

TLL x